Different styles of polyamory
Every polyamorous relationship is different. However, there are some helpful terms that can be useful in the context of polyamorous and other non-normative relationships to help structure your own desires and facilitate conversation with your partners.
1. Kitchen Table Polyamory: Kitchen Table Polyamory is an approach to polyamorous relationships in which all partners involved are closely connected and are able, for example, to sit together at a ‘kitchen table’ to discuss relationship issues, emotions and needs. This form of polyamory emphasises a high level of communication and cohesion between the various partners in a polyamorous network.
2. Parallel polyamory: Parallel polyamory refers to polyamorous relationships in which the various partners are aware of each other's relationships but do not necessarily have close contact with each other or actively participate in each other's relationships. Each partner maintains their own independent relationships in parallel with each other. This approach may be appealing to individuals who seek a certain degree of autonomy in their relationships.
3. Solo polyamory: Solo polyamory refers to a lifestyle in which a person focuses primarily on themselves and their own needs. They may have multiple relationships, but their autonomy and independence are of great importance. This person does not define their identity primarily through relationships and is not necessarily focused on developing long-term, hierarchical relationships. Instead, the focus is on individual freedom and autonomy.
4. Relationship Anarchy: Relationship anarchy is an approach to relationships that emphasises that no relationship is hierarchically superior to another. In relationship anarchy, traditional labels and expectations are not predetermined. This form of relationship emphasises autonomy, freedom and individual choice in relationships. It means that each partner has the freedom to shape their relationships according to their own desires and needs, without being constrained by social norms or expectations.
All of these approaches to polyamory and alternative relationship forms offer different ways for people to shape their romantic and sexual relationships. Each approach has its own advantages and disadvantages and appeals to different needs and values. The choice of approach depends on individual preferences and goals.
You can learn more about commonly used words in polyamory here.